I realize I'm spending all week on the subject of marriage, but I do feel that we're at a pivotal point in what has been called "the civil rights battle of our generation," which fully deserves the attention it has been getting. I also realize that this is the second "re-run" article this week, but I felt both deserved to be presented again in the midst of the discussions over gay marriage.
The article below is from almost six years ago, and was one of the most successful Huffington Post articles I've ever written. It got over 800 comments (which set a record for me) but sadly, during a software upgrade, all of these comments disappeared from their site.
One thing I was taken to task over in these original comments was for even considering polygamy rights in a serious vein without adequately addressing how gay marriage foes had used the issue against gay marriage advocates. I saw a discussion last night on television, in fact, where a gay marriage foe repeatedly brought up polygamy in a discussion about the Supreme Court cases argued this week. There is really one reason for doing this in such a fashion, and that is to link polygamy and gay marriage in the public mind, and by doing so raise the "ick" reaction as high as possible. Gay marriage proponents disavow any such linkage, in no uncertain terms. They're fighting their own battles, and they don't want to have someone else's dragged into the ring, which is understandable.
As I said yesterday, though, I was behind the political curve on fully supporting the push for gay marriage. Perhaps I wrote the following article as a reaction to this, in an attempt to get out in front of the next marriage rights issue. But no matter my motivation, I still feel the issue is going to arise eventually, and I feel it is worth examining your own stance on the issue in much the same way we've all been examining our stance on gay marriage for the past few decades. A few of the article's details are a bit out of date now (it was written during Mitt Romney's first run at the presidency), but the core questions remain the same. And I think this week is a perfect time to revisit this question, personally.
Originally published May 30, 2007
Do you support the concept of gay marriage?
That used to be an unimaginable question. Not "unimaginable" in a negative sense, but "unimaginable" in the original, neutral definition of the word: "unable to be imagined," or "not imaginable." The concept of two people of the same sex being married wasn't even raised in the American conscience until the 1990s (or perhaps late 1980s -- I haven't researched the actual date, this is from my own recollection). After that point, of course, the idea has grown in prominence in the American political debate, both pro and con.
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